There’s no doubt that relationships change after having children, but that doesn’t mean the relationship, or your sex life must suffer. It can sometimes be hard to find time to be intimate with your partner, which can lead to disconnection from your spouse and a host of other feelings that will negatively impact your relationship. People can sometimes become complacent and just start drifting mindlessly through the journey we call parenthood and that’s something you want to avoid.

It is important to note that things should be taken slow. If there was a recent birth and your partner was cleared after 6 weeks, you may be ready and willing while she is not. It can be frustrating waiting even longer but ensuring your partner is comfortable will make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.

Here are 4 ways to reignite sexual intimacy.

Find Time

The key tip for getting your sex life back on track after having kids is to find the time. Life with kids is hectic, especially when 3am feedings are still routine. In order to reignite the sexual spark after having kids, you and your partner need to set aside time for each other. We get it, the days are long, and the nights are longer, but the dishes can wait for a little while so you two can get some alone time. We get so overwhelmed trying to balance work, chores, and babies, we neglect not only ourselves but our partners as well. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, so finding time to spend together is beneficial for everyone involved. Talk with your spouse about a good day and time and mark the calendar for sex. Seriously!


It doesn’t always have to be just about sex. Flirting with your partner is a good place to start if your sex life is lacking since having kids. Create an atmosphere of romance and sexualize your partner. Making your partner feel attractive and wanted can heat things up and lead to the bedroom.

Take it to Text

You’re stuck late at the office but that doesn’t mean you can’t show your partner some affection! It’s important to let them know you’re thinking of them even when you’re apart. Sexting can help set the mood for you and your partner once you get home. The anticipation makes it so much better, so send that naughty message!

Get Excited

Spice up your bedroom life by trying something new with your partner. Maybe there’s a new position you’ve been wanting to try or a new foreplay technique your partner mentioned ages ago that you two never got to try. Introducing new things into the bedroom can help reignite your sex life after having kids.

When you have kids, they become the center of your attention every second of every day. Sex lives seem to suffer after a couple has children, but that doesn’t have to be the case. Finding time to be intimate with your partner is the first step to rekindling the intimacy you had before you had children. Don’t be afraid to flirt with your partner or sext them while you two are apart! Find new things to do in the bedroom and soon you’ll be right back on track.


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